About Me

Love in a box – that’s what a hope chest is.

When I was five my mother gave me a piece of fabric stretched in a hoop and a threaded needle and showed me how to embroider a pattern in backstitch. I had my very own embroidery kit in an ice cream bucket. I still remember how many times I sewed that duckling holding a flower umbrella to my dress! Perhaps my mother was a bit crazy, or medicated, or something because, really?  Who tries to teach a five-year-old how to embroider?  I know, because I looked at my first daughter at age five and there was no way I was giving that child a pair of safety scissors, let alone A SHARP NEEDLE.  I also thought, man oh man, my mother was awesome to teach me so young!  I don’t know what happened to that scrap of fabric but it was the beginning of my lifelong love of handwork and the starting point of my hope chest.

My mother taught me how to sew linens and I began collecting embroidery patterns to embellish them.  Confession to my mother: I stole them from her box of craft stuff in the attic.  But she probably knew that.  I still have them, by the way, and those things are VINTAGE!  I could open an Etsy shop and sell those 1955 Aunt Martha’s iron-on duckling patterns for some big bucks now.  But I won’t, because I plan to use them and make some tea towels for my new house.  Or vicariously living in my second childhood, however you choose to look at it.

Another skill I learned was how to tie and bind a quilt. I remember sleeping under the quilting frames in my bedroom with a pink gingham baby quilt in progress. It’s like the quilt is hovering over you, only with boards around the edges to crack your head on around midnight when you forget you are sleeping under a hovering quilt.  Just so you know, we made some dreadfully ugly things with gingham and yarn in the 70s.  Perhaps that is part of the reason for the hope chest, to hide hideous yarn-tied baby quilts in a dark, quiet place.  But it taught me the process by which a quilt is planned and made, and it was a great floor blanket for my babies to spit up on.

My grandmother was an accomplished craftswoman and taught me other handwork skills. One year she gave me a throw rug to latch hook with yarn, which I actually finished and used until it started coming apart at the corners.  (I wonder if they still make those kinds of kits, only not in a 70s brown and orange nightmare color scheme?)  She showed me how to tie macrame knots and make a houseplant hanger.  I hung it from the kitchen curtain rod in our Very First House, a single-wide trailer, and then learned that I am not very good with real plants.  Rest in peace, dear spider plant.

All of these finished projects went into my “hope chest” – a cardboard box that held the things I was making, as well as household items that I was given or purchased with babysitting money. I remember getting a frying pan for Christmas when I was 16.  A FRYING PAN!  Several of my friends were also working to fill their hope chests as well. We would talk about what we were making and compare our thrift store treasures, essentials like complete sets of glass luncheon plates and cups.

Aren’t hope chests completely old-fashioned?

Of course a hope chest is old fashioned.  Maybe that’s why you are reading this, to fill that nostalgic yearning inside that is only answered by the scent of cedar on hand knitted facecloths.  Years ago it was customary for a bride to display all the things she had made ready for her new home and role as a wife. When I dreamed of my wedding reception, I envisioned it with all the pretty things I had made laid out for the guests to see and gasp in amazement. “Look, Harriet!  A frying pan!  And a set of glass luncheon plates and cups!”  Swoon…..

In my family my mother and aunts had all displayed their hope chest collections when they got married.  In retrospect, I now realize that a better display at a wedding reception would be packages of toilet paper.  Honestly, if a girl knew just how many rolls of toilet paper four kids can go through in cough and flu season, she would STOCKPILE.  The awesomeness of her wedding reception would be measured by the height of the toilet paper package mountain.

Giving respect where it is due, my mother’s family, going back for generations, did some incredibly fantastic things with needle and thread, and their hope chest displays were glorious to behold and stand in reverence and awe.  I am truly grateful for the rich heritage from which I have benefited.

The gift that starts a home – the Hope Chest

Now that I have raised a family I appreciate even more the love and patience of my mother and grandmother to teach me homemaking skills without psychological damage to them or to me. The women in my life fostered joy in making household items not only functional but also lovely. It wasn’t just my immediate family, but other women in my community taught me skills that I have enjoyed over my lifetime.

I learned 4-H cooking from a neighbor in her farmhouse kitchen, and I learned that you can cook a chicken.  My mother was a ground beef only kind of mom.  She could prepare ground beef one thousand ways.  Cooking is a great skill to “have” in your box of love hope chest.  It can be represented by handwritten recipe cards given by the ladies of the church for layered gelatin and carrot salads to serve on your luncheon plates.  You know what I’m talking about, right?  The cards that say, “from the kitchen of ______” and are folded in half so the giver can write in mostly illegible handwriting the details of the above mentioned gelatin salad.  And how many it serves.

My home-economics teacher showed me how to follow a sewing pattern and construct clothing that fit. And my blessed mother – hallelujah to her awesomeness – gave me her flatbed SINGER FEATHERWEIGHT SEWING MACHINE.  Jealous yet?  Yup, still have it, still works, and I shall revel in it’s glory forever more.  Because those things are now worth their weight in GOLD.  And it’s MINE.  And I’m not going to do something stupid like give it to one of my daughters.  And one daughter hath already asked, and I hath answered with a hearty “NAY!  Tis MINE until I DIE.”

Women from our church taught me to crochet and knit.  Once I crocheted a purse, really and truly.  But stuff fell out between the stitches, so it wasn’t very practical.  And no, it did not end up in my hope chest.

But what about the real deal, a cedar lined hope chest?

As a teenager, how I dreamed of having a Lane cedar chest at the foot of my bed! Those advertisements in Seventeen magazine were effective.  My parents weren’t able to give me such an expensive gift but they did give me a frying pan and a cardboard box to keep it in, so I cannot complain about their lack of generosity.  Or brilliance in allowing me to buy it for myself.  The dream lived on for me, so I saved and purchased my very own hope chest after I became engaged. I wonder how much that would be in today’s dollars?  I’m sure it was one of those things that my betrothed shook his head and and wondered if he had proposed to the right woman.  (Turns out he hadn’t.  Proposed to the right woman, that is.  Because we divorced.  Sad, huh.  But that meant that eventually I married JB, and that’s about the most awesome thing that has happened in the last couple of decades for me.  But I’m biased, and still newly married, and wanting to have a hope chest filled with embroidered tea towels.  So that maybe shoots my credibility just a little.  But probably not.)

We, as in my first husband and I, squeezed that hope chest into our home sweet tin can, where it sat, filled with my wedding bouquet, and leftover reception table centerpieces, and after a while, a few toy cars hidden in there by my son when I wasn’t looking. But eventually my cedar hope chest went into the attic of my parent’s house where it has remained ever since.

After thinking it would never happen again, I got married in 2015.  I will have to tell our story here at some point.  In a nutshell we had 13 dates over four months, exchanged about 10,000 text messages, thought it was over, got engaged, and two weeks later got married, all while living about a hundred miles apart.  Which I don’t recommend doing unless you are a little crazy, or a lot in love, or really really confident in God.  Which we were, all three.

My husband and I are creating a home together. I love the vintage look in pretty much everything.  I have found myself with a bit of time and desire to make some beautiful things. I am planning to get my cedar chest out of the attic and have a place for it in our home. It is such a lovely place to start over, knowing exactly what my taste is and what I want.  I’m channeling Emily Post about things like a well-appointed home.  You should read this chapter of her etiquette book, it’s informational.

Because really, marriage is just love in a box.

You see, a hope chest isn’t just for material possessions. A marriage is so much more than pretty towels and matching aprons. In my opinion, the skills and knowledge to create a healthy relationship and a happy home are never outdated or old-fashioned.

The purpose for this website:

Many years ago I watched a friend working on cross-stitch Christmas ornaments. I had never seen cross-stitch before, and decided I wanted to learn how and make personalized Christmas stockings for my husband and myself. This resulted in one of my biggest project failures. As I finished the final stitching on the cuff of the second stocking, I realized that I had spelled my own name wrong and left out a letter!

just the two of us - spring 2015 / taffetadreams.comI’m dusting off some rusty skills and hoping to learn a few new ones. I’d love to show you the projects for the hope chest that inspire me and the ones that just don’t work. Perhaps I can also share a few snippets of my life as a new wife and evil stepmother.  And as a foster mama, because JB and I have TODDLERS in our home, for how long we don’t know.  But it’s been a few months and let me tell you, full-time toddlers at age fifty is something else.

Yours truly